"I had a great experience with my caregiver Jos. He was unbelievably empathetic, helpful and reassuring during a time of great unease. He was also just super easy to be around. We laughed a lot watching TV together, and he got along with my friends and family. He is definitely someone I will remain close with throughout my life. I feel incredibly lucky to have had such a caring and knowledgeable caregiver. "
-Asher, 38
April 2024
-Asher, 38
April 2024
"Wonderful service all around, not only was Jos great company, he was attentive, kind, and knowledgable. He was willing to go out of his way to make me feel safe. Even when setting up for the caregiving, he was honest and upfront with me on my needs and it really made me happy and confident that I made the right choice."
-Halibel, 36
August 2022
-Halibel, 36
August 2022
"Honestly I don’t know how I would have managed without T4T Caregiving.
Jos was my caregiver post op Stage 1 ALT phalloplasty.
He was extremely communicative before surgery and during my stay in the hospital he was proactive in getting everything I needed once I was released. He even came and visited with me while I was there.
He eased so much of my anxiety with his knowledge of the surgery and really made me comfortable in situations I don’t think I could have been had I another caregiver service or had friends/family take care of me.
He helped me with all my meds - making sure I took them on time, grocery retrieval, cooking, cleaning, all the help with wound care and showering.
Jos honestly was much better than the nurses in the hospital when it came to wound care.
But deep down the greatest thing about T4T aside from meeting Jos was the feeling of safety and comfort in a very vulnerable situation.
I can’t speak highly enough about him and this experience. 100% worth it."
-AC, 31
October 2021
Jos was my caregiver post op Stage 1 ALT phalloplasty.
He was extremely communicative before surgery and during my stay in the hospital he was proactive in getting everything I needed once I was released. He even came and visited with me while I was there.
He eased so much of my anxiety with his knowledge of the surgery and really made me comfortable in situations I don’t think I could have been had I another caregiver service or had friends/family take care of me.
He helped me with all my meds - making sure I took them on time, grocery retrieval, cooking, cleaning, all the help with wound care and showering.
Jos honestly was much better than the nurses in the hospital when it came to wound care.
But deep down the greatest thing about T4T aside from meeting Jos was the feeling of safety and comfort in a very vulnerable situation.
I can’t speak highly enough about him and this experience. 100% worth it."
-AC, 31
October 2021
"I worked with T4T Caregiving for recovery from stage 1 RFF with the NYU team and was matched with Jos. He took care of everything I needed besides actually having the surgery for me. Cooked all my meals, quickly responded if I needed something even if it was in the middle of the night, did my dressing changes (even better than the actual surgeons and nurses lmao), and when I got some wound separation at the tip of my penis he was proactive with taking photos to send to the surgical team.
Given that he’s also trans and is post op phallo, he was able to reassure me from personal experience that my bleeding and swelling was normal. It was such a relief to not have to feel awkward or apologetic about the state of my body like I would if I had enlisted the services of a friend or hired home health aide, where in most cases they are cis and haven’t had previous experience with taking care of someone post-phallo. It was also just psychologically helpful to see someone further ahead with these surgeries able to go about life as “normal”, as a reminder that the early stages of recovery aren’t forever.
I know that the cost can be a barrier for many people, but I definitely got more than I paid for from T4T Caregiving in terms of knowledge, patience, and competence. Nurses and caregivers aren’t given nearly enough credit for the vital work they do."
-Phalloplasty Client, 29
May 2021
Given that he’s also trans and is post op phallo, he was able to reassure me from personal experience that my bleeding and swelling was normal. It was such a relief to not have to feel awkward or apologetic about the state of my body like I would if I had enlisted the services of a friend or hired home health aide, where in most cases they are cis and haven’t had previous experience with taking care of someone post-phallo. It was also just psychologically helpful to see someone further ahead with these surgeries able to go about life as “normal”, as a reminder that the early stages of recovery aren’t forever.
I know that the cost can be a barrier for many people, but I definitely got more than I paid for from T4T Caregiving in terms of knowledge, patience, and competence. Nurses and caregivers aren’t given nearly enough credit for the vital work they do."
-Phalloplasty Client, 29
May 2021
"Jos exceeded my expectations for a caregiver for my Phase I Phalloplasty. An unfortunate circumstance prevented my parents from travelling to be my caregivers and I had to tap into outside resources. I quickly realized, once in the care of Jos, I would not have wanted anyone else to have cared for me. There is something both special and soothing in sharing this healing process with another trans person who has experienced the intricacies involved in the physical and emotional work that comes with these types of surgeries. I did not know what I needed from Jos until he effortlessly provided it. He made me feel relaxed and comfortable within hours of meeting him.
Jos is organized, responsible, and well educated in phalloplasty. Prior to meeting in person, Jos was an excellent communicator throughout the process of setting up our plan of action. Once in his care, all transportation was arranged, the timing of my medications were strictly monitored, and all wound care was addressed with experienced hands. I had comfort in knowing his established relationships with my surgeons, careteam network, as well as other post op trans men from different surgical teams. Jos did everything for me short of juggling for my entertainment (although, I think if requested, he’d make accommodations). He knew the perfect balance as far as being respectful of times I needed company and times I needed privacy.
I will always be grateful to have made this connection and I credit many successes of my healing to my caregiver. "
-Phalloplasty Client, 25
January 2021
Jos is organized, responsible, and well educated in phalloplasty. Prior to meeting in person, Jos was an excellent communicator throughout the process of setting up our plan of action. Once in his care, all transportation was arranged, the timing of my medications were strictly monitored, and all wound care was addressed with experienced hands. I had comfort in knowing his established relationships with my surgeons, careteam network, as well as other post op trans men from different surgical teams. Jos did everything for me short of juggling for my entertainment (although, I think if requested, he’d make accommodations). He knew the perfect balance as far as being respectful of times I needed company and times I needed privacy.
I will always be grateful to have made this connection and I credit many successes of my healing to my caregiver. "
-Phalloplasty Client, 25
January 2021