"T4T made what was an overwhelming and extensive surgical experience a breeze. Between the physical support with meals and dressings, to the emotional support at appointments and healing; this service is second to none. I couldn't imagine having surgery without their help."
-Phalloplasty Client, 25
July 2024
-Phalloplasty Client, 25
July 2024
"I can’t recommend and thank oliver flowers enough! He was everything I could have asked for in a caregiver and more. Right away he showed me support and compassion in my Phalloplasty journey, and my mental and physical well-being thrived because of him.
He is extremely knowledgeable, transparent, supportive, professional, personable, and just overall a wonderful human being. He really takes time and dedication to think through everything and custom tailors your care plan based on your individual needs. The house was kept tidy and very well organized, which is one of the most important things to me and my needs. He was attentive and intuitive and I always felt like I was taken care of and thought of. His assurance gave me so much peace.
As a caregiver of over 10 years myself, my standards are high for what makes a good caregiver. oliver blew me away with his level of care and I’d recommend him to anyone pursuing gender confirmation surgeries. I have zero complaints in regards to his care and I am forever grateful to have had him there to care for me. Thank you so much oliver and T4T Caregiving!"
-Levi, 31
November 2023
He is extremely knowledgeable, transparent, supportive, professional, personable, and just overall a wonderful human being. He really takes time and dedication to think through everything and custom tailors your care plan based on your individual needs. The house was kept tidy and very well organized, which is one of the most important things to me and my needs. He was attentive and intuitive and I always felt like I was taken care of and thought of. His assurance gave me so much peace.
As a caregiver of over 10 years myself, my standards are high for what makes a good caregiver. oliver blew me away with his level of care and I’d recommend him to anyone pursuing gender confirmation surgeries. I have zero complaints in regards to his care and I am forever grateful to have had him there to care for me. Thank you so much oliver and T4T Caregiving!"
-Levi, 31
November 2023
"We contacted oliver following a recommendation hoping he could help our son navigate the physical aspect of his surgery.
What we encountered was oliver’s holistic approach to healing our son’s body, mind and soul.
He is someone who can be trusted and who practices his caring craft with precision and wisdom.
These are difficult surgeries and oliver’s presence helped us transform our fears into love, support and affection.
We wanted what was best for our son. We didn’t realize how much we needed oliver, as well.
He was truly a gift."
-Jane, Doug, and Lily
July 2019
What we encountered was oliver’s holistic approach to healing our son’s body, mind and soul.
He is someone who can be trusted and who practices his caring craft with precision and wisdom.
These are difficult surgeries and oliver’s presence helped us transform our fears into love, support and affection.
We wanted what was best for our son. We didn’t realize how much we needed oliver, as well.
He was truly a gift."
-Jane, Doug, and Lily
July 2019
"oliver was divinely sent for my surgery. I would recommend his services to anyone.
You are not getting just a caregiver, but a healer and friend. From the very beginning of the process, to the day he left, he was acutely tuned in to what I needed - even when I didn’t know I needed it.
He was a calming presence that radiated unconditional love and support in every moment. He knew exactly when to leave me in solitude with family or friends, and when to step up and be front and center. He was fierce in his protection of me, and serene in stressful or scary situations. In a time that is deeply vulnerable, raw, emotional and transformative- oliver held me with pure acceptance, safety and celebration. He embraces and honors the entirety of the healing process and can empathize on a level very few people can understand until you are under his care. He cooked me delicious meals; cleaned up the space as I left gauze and cups and plates all over the place; drove me to appointments; went food shopping; made my family laugh and feel supported; helped me shower; and held the space for my body, mind and spirit to express all the ranges of emotion fully as we danced through this rite of passage all together.
Surgery is the most powerful and intense experience in the world, and to have oliver there as my teammate and anchor was more than I could have asked for. He is truly an amazing, kind, and extraordinary man, and I am lucky to know him and have been cared for by him."
-Phalloplasty Client
June 2019
You are not getting just a caregiver, but a healer and friend. From the very beginning of the process, to the day he left, he was acutely tuned in to what I needed - even when I didn’t know I needed it.
He was a calming presence that radiated unconditional love and support in every moment. He knew exactly when to leave me in solitude with family or friends, and when to step up and be front and center. He was fierce in his protection of me, and serene in stressful or scary situations. In a time that is deeply vulnerable, raw, emotional and transformative- oliver held me with pure acceptance, safety and celebration. He embraces and honors the entirety of the healing process and can empathize on a level very few people can understand until you are under his care. He cooked me delicious meals; cleaned up the space as I left gauze and cups and plates all over the place; drove me to appointments; went food shopping; made my family laugh and feel supported; helped me shower; and held the space for my body, mind and spirit to express all the ranges of emotion fully as we danced through this rite of passage all together.
Surgery is the most powerful and intense experience in the world, and to have oliver there as my teammate and anchor was more than I could have asked for. He is truly an amazing, kind, and extraordinary man, and I am lucky to know him and have been cared for by him."
-Phalloplasty Client
June 2019
"From our first email interaction I could tell oliver was very compassionate and responsive. We emailed back and forth for about a year, through surgery date switches, insurance coverage panics, and travel logistics! I finally met oliver in person when we both flew into San Francisco the night before my pre-operative appointment, though I felt like I already knew him from our email exchanges. He gifted me a few of his favorite homeopathic remedies (of course cleared by the docs prior to taking them) before heading to bed for the next day. He was with me through my entire 5 day hospital stay, day and night, doing everything from making sure I was comfortable, calling and updating my partner and family, to advocating for me when I had a less than ideal interaction with a nurse and comforting me when I was sobbing from the emotional weight of the whole experience.
Since I had to change my surgery date, oliver couldn't stay with me the whole month. He recommend a colleague of his and made sure I was comfortable with the transition of care before looping Ambrose into our email exchanges a few months prior to leaving for California. We planned a four or five day overlap to transition my care to Ambrose. Medication management, wound cleaning schedule, grocery shopping, post operative dates, transportation, etc. Ambrose was also an amazing caregiver - very attentive, in tune to my needs, and easy to talk to. He reminded me of the things I had forgotten and made sure I wasn't doing too much too soon. Ambrose made my departure from California as seamless and smooth as possible. I consider all of us friends now, they still check in with me not only on my physical healing, but my overall well being.
Overall, I credit a big part of how well I healed to my caregiving team, oliver and Ambrose. I recommend them to literally anyone who is having a gender affirming surgery because your aftercare is so important and you don't want to take any chances if you don't have to!
They pride themselves on care-giving by trans folks for trans folks. It makes a huge difference receiving care from folks who have an understanding of all the hoops we have to jump through to live more authentically in our own bodies.
If I had to do it all over again, I'd choose oliver and Ambrose every time."
-Phalloplasty Client
May 2019
Since I had to change my surgery date, oliver couldn't stay with me the whole month. He recommend a colleague of his and made sure I was comfortable with the transition of care before looping Ambrose into our email exchanges a few months prior to leaving for California. We planned a four or five day overlap to transition my care to Ambrose. Medication management, wound cleaning schedule, grocery shopping, post operative dates, transportation, etc. Ambrose was also an amazing caregiver - very attentive, in tune to my needs, and easy to talk to. He reminded me of the things I had forgotten and made sure I wasn't doing too much too soon. Ambrose made my departure from California as seamless and smooth as possible. I consider all of us friends now, they still check in with me not only on my physical healing, but my overall well being.
Overall, I credit a big part of how well I healed to my caregiving team, oliver and Ambrose. I recommend them to literally anyone who is having a gender affirming surgery because your aftercare is so important and you don't want to take any chances if you don't have to!
They pride themselves on care-giving by trans folks for trans folks. It makes a huge difference receiving care from folks who have an understanding of all the hoops we have to jump through to live more authentically in our own bodies.
If I had to do it all over again, I'd choose oliver and Ambrose every time."
-Phalloplasty Client
May 2019
"The best decision I ever made was getting my top surgery! The second best decision I ever made was hiring a personal caregiver to be with me for a full two weeks for my recovery. I cannot give a higher recommendation than I can for oliver. He was spot on in every facet of care, and seemingly anticipated my needs in every way before I could even verbalize my needs myself.
His attention to my health not only included my wound care and tracking my medication, but also my mental health, physical health, and nutrition. These were the things that were expected by me for my caregiver. oliver took it ten steps further... including helping me navigate through securing the rental property, attending my pre-op visit with my Doctor, caring for my service dog and keeping the house a clean, cool, and relaxed environment for my healing. In the end he even drove me 15 hours in a car to bring me safely home. This is certainly going the extra mile.
I'm so happy to refer oliver to anyone needing care or companionship. He is an excellent and attentive caregiver on top of being a peaceful, fun, and radiant human being."
-Max, 43
January 2016
His attention to my health not only included my wound care and tracking my medication, but also my mental health, physical health, and nutrition. These were the things that were expected by me for my caregiver. oliver took it ten steps further... including helping me navigate through securing the rental property, attending my pre-op visit with my Doctor, caring for my service dog and keeping the house a clean, cool, and relaxed environment for my healing. In the end he even drove me 15 hours in a car to bring me safely home. This is certainly going the extra mile.
I'm so happy to refer oliver to anyone needing care or companionship. He is an excellent and attentive caregiver on top of being a peaceful, fun, and radiant human being."
-Max, 43
January 2016